How to raise children in Japan16.11.2019 09:25
In modern Japan, you can meet a maximum of three children in the family. Previously, Japanese families were more large and couples who gave birth to five or six children were not uncommon.
In Japan, it is not accepted to hide that the couple will soon become parents. Even before the baby is born, relatives, colleagues and friends begin to give gifts and congratulate future parents.
In the first year of life, mothers never leave the child alone and do everything to make the baby cry as little as possible. Even briefly leaving the house, they always take it with them. A woman in Japan has no right to go to work until the baby is three years old.
Men in Japanese families usually do not take part in the upbringing of the child in the first years of his life. They do not perform any domestic work and spend most of their time at work earning money for the family. Every Japanese man dreams of his son as the successor of the family.
The main stages of education
In Japan, a fifteen-year-old child is already considered an adult. Therefore, the three main stages of education include the age of the baby from birth to fifteen years.
- Phase one.
Up to five years, Japanese kids do not prohibit. Teachers believe that all sorts of taboos and prohibitions suppress the baby and subsequently lead to infantile child. So in Japanese family a small child lives as real king. Being inquisitive, kids unknowingly can make any prank. In such cases, parents use words that do not prohibit the meaning, but denote a reaction to actions ("it's hot", "it's dangerous", "it hurts me"). A baby under five is unable to understand the reason for any ban.
- Second stage.
After five years, Japanese children are no longer considered small and can not afford to do whatever they want. Mom and dad begin to explain to the baby how to behave in the family and among other people. The child must meet the requirements set before him certain tasks. Pre-schools in Japan accept children from the age of five. In addition to qualified teachers who teach kids writing, numeracy and reading, preschool institutions have everything that helps the physical and spiritual development of the child. In groups there are no more than eight kids, their structure changes every six months in order that the child studied quickly and easily to get acquainted with new children.
In order not to grow up an egoist, starting from the age of five, parents stop fussing with the baby and indulge all his whims. In Japan, it is also not accepted to compare the child with other children, highlighting it.
- Third stage.
Communication with the child on an equal footing in Japanese families begin with ten years. Parents, taking any decisions, always interested in the opinion of the baby, and if there is a difficult situation, then together looking for a way out of it. All this helps to raise the child's independence, commitment and independence. It is unacceptable to give instructions, to suppress the child or to solve his problems instead of him.
One main principle remains unchanged at all three stages of education-is not to humiliate and not to beat the child.